Saturday, August 31, 2013

Four Years in France

Carol and I have spent 3 1/2 and four years respectively living in various parts of France. In fact, we met there in the mid 1960's. We have especially lived in the northern portion of France, from east to west, plus several months in Belgium, We have visited nearly all of France, as well as various portions of Belgium and tiny Luxembourg. We have been the recipients of wonderful customer service in France and have grown to love and admire our scores of personal French friends. France is an enormously beautiful country with so much that is green and with extensive coastal areas. We have explored the battle fields of World Wars I and II and have toured many grand castles, cathedrals and basilicas. We have enjoyed numerous art galleries in Paris and elsewhere, where we were privileged to see famous paintings and art objects. I  lived in France for 30 months in 1964-67. I first re-visited the country in 1987 and then resided there for 18 months in 2011-2012. These windows have allowed me to observe quite a few transitions in French society. I feel honored and blessed.

To understand the history of France is to better understand the world at large. France has not seen the end of us, which means we need to not allow our language skills to go dormant. Mostly we want to return and see old friends and experience their culture. We hope to return when the LDS Temple is completed in the Paris region in 2016. We have enjoyed visiting other French-speaking nations in the West Indies and Canada. We would love to go to French-speaking Africa. The only portion of Africa we've visited is Egypt, where French was not useful.








Popular Entertainment: Carol and I love live theater. We've seen Les Miserables and Phantom multiples times. We have attended theatrical performances in San Francisco, Los Angeles, Chicago, London, Phoenix, New York, Mesa, Sacramento, Ashland, Oregon, Cedar City Utah Shakespeare Festival, France and other places. We love the Hale Theater in Gilbert, AZ. It is a small, theater-in-the-round experience that is done very professionally. (Note: I used to love sports and grew up on a baseball diamond and a basketball court. I still love them but I have grown weary of the antics of so many professional athletes to the point that I have largely lost interest in pro sports. Having said that, I know that not all big-time athletes are disreputable. I attend church with two highly successful pro football players and the parents of another Hall of Famer and they are very honorable. But nowadays, as a spectator, I prefer college and high school sports.)



A partial list of live musical or theatrical performances we have enjoyed over the years:

Les Miserables          Phantom of the Opera        Hello Dolly         Damn Yankees

Seven Brides for Seven Brothers          A Christmas Carol    Aida        Cats

Billy Elliot      Annie Get Your Gun      How to Succeed In Business Without Really Trying

Guys and Dolls     Porgy and Bess       Fiddler on the Roof     Oliver     The Music Man

The King and I     The Fantastiks        Pirates of Penzance       Brigadoon      Mame

Camelot      Always Patsy       42nd Street       Kiss Me Kate     Grease      Pajama Game

The Mikado     Beauty and the Beast       The Lion King      South Pacific   Wait Until Dark

Oklahoma       Driving Miss Daisy      Showboat      Movin' On     Mama Mia   Evita

Bye Bye Birdie     Carousel       Faust       Big River       Smokey Joe's Cafe       Wicked

Will Rogers Follies   Church Basement Ladies      Man From La Mancha    My Fair Lady

Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat     Wait Until Dark    Twelve Angry Men   

Sense and Sensibility      Into the Woods

(Note: We don't follow opera by and large. Carol says she grew up on too much opera and lost a taste for it. That's OK with me. We don't go to movies too often--perhaps 3 times annually. There's too much junk out there. We're not into big action movies and sex soap opera movies. I like watching old Westerns on T.V. occasionally.)

Our Town
by Thornton Wilder has always intrigued me, perhaps because I grew up in sort of a Grover Corner type of community portrayed in the play. I used to read the play every few years just to get that special feeling it gave me when considering how the sum total of small acts in daily life are more important that we tend to think.


Family Fun

Families are forever. Carol and I are blessed to have a close-knit family. Our five grown children and 17 grandchildren are close to one another and very supportive of each other through good times and not-so-good times. A prime example was when we lost Sullivan, our nine-year old grandson in January of 2013. Our children really pulled together as siblings and their children stepped up to the plate, as it were, to be loyal cousins so that we could get through this trial together. Especially in need of comfort were Sullivan's parents and sisters. Here are photos of our family. The photo of all of us was taken in November 2012 during a family reunion in Southern California. (Note: Sullivan is the blond boy on the front row left in the blue shirt. He is standing next to his sister in the black dress.) A new grandchild was born about two weeks following Sully's passing: the cycle of life was made manifest in a very short period of time in our family.















Inspirational Thoughts: I am often moved or otherwise enlightened by short thoughts that are insightful or motivational. Below are some that roll around in my head. Many have been there for so long I no longer know or remember who first said them. Perhaps I have never really known the source in some cases. The words are merely stuck in my brain and provide a framework for living.

 


Egotism is the anesthetic that dulls the pain of stupidity.

There is no particular value in being the most wealthy man in the graveyard.

No other success can compensate for failure in the home. (David O. McKay)

The most important work you will ever do will be within the walls of your own home." (Harold B. Lee)

No man can ever climb above his own head.

If you think you can or if you think you can't you are exactly right. 

When it's all said and done, there is usually more said than done

Exceptional souls are not developed by being made exceptions to the challenges common to mankind. (Neal A. Maxwell)

A politician thinks of the next election; a statesman thinks of the next generation. (Note: in my profession I knew plenty of both types.)

A fanatic is someone who redoubles his efforts after he's lost sight of his objective. 

The main thing to remember is that the main thing is still the main thing. (Steven R. Covey)

Seek first to understand before seeking to be understood. (Steven R. Covey)

Preach the gospel at all times and when necessary use words. (St. Francis of Assisi regarding the power of example.)

Love sees more, not less; but because it sees more it is willing to see less. (Julius Gordon ?)

Never allow a person's future to be held hostage by his past. (Maxwell)

Any jackass can kick down a barn; it takes a carpenter to build one. (Sam Rayburn)

I'd rather be on the construction crew than the wrecking crew any day.

We need more people who can say "no" with emphasis and more people who are not afraid to say: "I can't afford it."

Two great generals seems to be waging a war against society--General Apathy and General Indifference.

The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who, in times of great moral crisis, maintain their neutrality. (Dante Alighieri)

All it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing. (Edmund Burke)

Our lot in life is not to see through others but to see others through. 

Some people aim low in life and always hit their mark. 

Sitting in church every Sunday will not automatically turn me into a Christian anymore than sleeping in the garage every night would turn me into a car. It takes heartfelt believing, understanding and action to be a true Christian. 

I heard a story once about two young recruits--salesmen--who were sent off to the Australian outback to represent a shoe company. One wrote back later that the situation was impossible because no one there wore shoes. The other, more enterprising, recruit send back word to the home office: "The opportunity here is fantastic; no one has shoes yet." I've never forgotten that story. A similar one about attitude is depicted in the story--true or otherwise--that when Robert Fulton invented the steamboat there were people saying: "It'll never start; it will never start." When it started some said, "It'll never stop; it'll never stop."


Faith in God



While living in France in 2011-2012 a French friend asked about my beliefs and why I am a "Mormon" (the nickname for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints). I penned the following response to him, knowing that he was an honest seeker of truth and, like me, an imperfect being trying to draw closer to God our Heavenly Father, and his son, Jesus Christ. (For additional information re: Mormonism, see also www.mormon.org and www.lds.org or Encyclopedia of Mormonism at eom.byu.edu)

Dear Friend (name omitted),
I have been thinking about you a great deal as I am grateful for my friendship with you. You have asked questions about my religious beliefs. I thought that perhaps one thing I could share with you during this holiday season is something not commercial but it has even greater value to me. It is my testimony. Here are some things I appreciate about my membership in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints:

·        The restored gospel gives me a proper understanding of the nature of God and his son, Jesus Christ. When I pray to God, in the name of Christ, I know that I am praying to someone in whose image I have been created. He is not just a cloud or an invisible essence, but a God with body, parts and passions. This helps me to understand not only who He is but who I am—a child of God, our loving Heavenly Father. While there is much about the heavens that I do not understand, I feel that God, our Heavenly Father, and his son are not a huge mystery. Therefore, my daily prayers and practices take on much more meaning. John 17:3 says: And this is life eternal, to know thee, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom thou has sent. We also read in Matthew 22:37-39 that the two great commandments are to love God and to love our neighbor or fellowman. I can help and serve people I don’t know, but to truly love someone, I want to know that person. When it comes to loving God, I feel closer to Him and find it easier to love Him, when I realize that I am created in His image and thus I know him better. But I would find it very challenging to love a mysterious essence.

·        The Holy Ghost is a comforter and friend who can bring peace to my soul. As a member of the Godhead he can comfort me. He can warn me of imminent danger and teach me truth, and he can bring spiritual understanding to my mind that can help me hold fast to true doctrines and principles.

·        The Bible is a wonderful book and I am eternally grateful for it. I love reading it and learning about Christ and the original twelve apostles and their followers and accusers. I am also very grateful for the first men who risked their very lives to translate the Bible so that the common man could read and understand it.  I cannot imagine my life without the Bible. However, I am also persuaded there are parts missing accidentally due to its various translations. I also believe that in some cases some original truths in the Bible are missing due to conspiring people who decided to remove plain and precious parts of it to hide them from the world at-large.

·        I also love the Book of Mormon and am grateful to have it in my life. The messages are clear and significant. This great book complements the Bible, fills in some gaps and offers truths on the subjects of Christ’s atonement, baptism, baptism of children, repentance, forgiveness, life after death and many other important truths in a manner very powerful and important for my spiritual progress. It is the keystone of our religion and helps me to draw nearer to God, more than any other book.

·        I cannot imagine living life without my having access to the words of a living prophet. There are so many things about modern society and changing times that make it imperative, in my opinion, that there be a prophet. The prophet helps us understand how to cope and how to view societal issues and problems from God’s perspective. I thank God that He has put his mouthpiece on the earth once again to lead and guide his children. I worship God, not prophets, but I am grateful that  God above has called latter-day prophets.

·        I am grateful for the institutional church that has no paid ministry or clergy in its congregations all over the world. I love how the church allows me to apply the teachings of the scriptures and prophets by giving me the opportunity to work side-by-side with people who are different from me in personality and abilities, but who have the same objective. That objective is to serve my fellowman and to learn to love and serve God in a way that will allow me to one day return and live with Him. I consider it a privilege and blessing to contribute tithing, as taught in the Bible, to my church.

·        I am grateful for temples that exist on the earth where husband and wife can be sealed to each other for this life and the next, if they live worthy of that blessing. In the temples their children can be linked to their specific parents in an eternal family unit. The authority to seal/connect/bind/link spouses to each other, and parents to children, exists because there is a prophet on the earth with the proper priesthood authority to delegate that authority to those who officiate and perform such “sealings” or, in other words, eternal connections. By similar means, the proper authority to be baptized and receive the Holy Ghost exists on the earth. I am thankful to be alive in a time where priesthood power has been restored to man on earth once again.

·        I am grateful for my church’s focus on the family. Our family was not perfect by any means and I was definitely not a perfect father or husband. But I shudder to think where I and we might have been if we did not have the teachings of the church and the guidance of a prophet and scriptures to help me and my family stay on the proper path in life. By having a vision of the existence of the family unit in the next life our family has been given something very valuable to strengthen our desire to cherish that which is good. The church encourages families to hold a weekly Monday evening family time together called Family Home Evening. I know that Family Home Evening has helped many families, including ours. To me, families are (or can be) forever.

·        Christ’s atonement, including his love for us, as evidenced by his suffering in the Garden of Gethsemane and on the cross, offers me solace and a reason to keep going during tough times in my life. He suffered not just for my sins but also for other afflictions, pains or hard times that I may have. Partaking of the sacramental emblems (bread and water) each Sunday helps me remember my covenants of baptism (i.e. to always remember Christ in word and deed and to take upon me His name). The sacrament also reminds me of what Christ did for me. The emblems of bread and water are taken in remembrance of Him. They are not truly his body and blood but they are an important means provided to me to stay close to God, who gave his “only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life.” While I feel that good deeds (i.e. good “works”) in this life are vital, I also know that no amount of good deeds on my part will save me spiritually and eternally. That gift is only possible because of the love of God and the love, sacrifice and grace of his son, Jesus Christ.The Book of Mormon teaches that notwithstanding all that we can do in the form of good deeds, ultimately we would have NO hope in being "saved" were it not for the grace of Jesus Christ. 

·        I am grateful for the power of the priesthood on the earth, which authority I hold to help bless my family and others. The priesthood is to be used for serving and loving and not for any means of personal aggrandizement or for selfish motives. I have been able to baptize my children and confirm them to receive the Holy Ghost. I have the authority to give them priesthood blessings when they are sick so that, according to their faith and God’s will, they may be healed by the power of the priesthood. When my family members have had special challenges in life I have been able to give them a priesthood blessing to help them through their trying times. And when I have special challenges that seem overwhelming I am able to call upon a church member or family member who holds the priesthood to give me a blessing of comfort and inspired counsel. I did not assign myself to hold a priesthood office. I was asked by those with greater authority and administrative keys to assume this responsibility. Many of us imperfect men in my faith hold similar authority as part of the unpaid clergy that seeks to bless the lives of others.

Again, the priesthood is not for me to use in any selfish way but it is a blessing to have ready access to it for the reasons mentioned above. It is a blessing that carries with it a responsibility to use it wisely. My wife does not covet the fact that I have the priesthood any more than I covet the special bond a mother can have with her children. I envied that bond with our children, and am awed by it, but I did not covet her special relationship with our children, especially when they were young. Modern day prophets have also taught that men who hold the priesthood should never use it to exercise unrighteous influence. The powers of the priesthood are to be used through love, gentle persuasion, meekness and patience. The same scriptures tell me that if I misuse the priesthood its privileges will be taken away from me.

·        I love my church because it exists to help the “whole man,” which is to say it helps me spiritually and also in temporal ways. Its practices, such as fasting and the law of tithing, help me to overcome selfishness. I am grateful for the wise manner in which the church uses the tithing money it receives from members worldwide. Church buildings, temples, missionary work, institutions of higher learning and other programs supported by church finances are marvelous works and wonders in my eyes. I happily and cheerfully contribute, for I know that my meager offerings help others. I know too that by our mutual efforts church members are blessed in return many times more than the small sacrifice they make.  It comforts me to know that a portion of my offerings are directly and quickly sent to help people all over the world when disaster strikes.  My church works directly with the Red Cross, Catholic charities and other such organizations to accomplish these humanitarian efforts.

·        I thank God for the inspired Word of Wisdom that helps me to know that my body is a temple in God’s eyes and I am taught how to care for it properly by abstaining from alcohol, tobacco and drugs. I am also taught what things are good for my body. By adhering to this unique church principle I feel that I gain self-mastery which, in turn, helps me in other aspects of my life.

·        I am grateful that the church to which I belong is not just a Sunday church. I have respect for other religious denominations but I know of none that could offer to me the grand opportunities I have in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. In the church I can grow my talents or acquire new abilities by doing such things as:

  •  gain experience in leadership, music, teaching other people and conducting meetings
  •  work on service projects and gain respect for other people by working with them to serve others. I can also see that these people (my fellow church members) are willing to help me through my difficulties in life and I can feel their love and concern. They are willing to work with me even though I have weaknesses and am not perfect.
  •   being taught regularly about my relationship to God, Christ, my fellowman and my family through weekly Sunday School and other Sunday classes. Repetition helps me learn because I forget things and because I understand a little better each time I am taught a principle or commandment or doctrinal truth.
  •  I am also taught practical things such as how to set aside food and clothing for future calamities or other times of great need (i.e. unemployment, worker strikes, transportation shut-downs), and I am encouraged and taught how to live within my means and use a budget.
·        I love the church’s missionary program and efforts and I know of none like it in the world.  There are more than 75,000 missionaries throughout the world, at their own cost, preaching the doctrines of the gospel or helping in humanitarian ways.

These missionaries return to their homes after 18 months or two years with renewed faith, determination and leadership abilities, not to mention foreign language ability and respect for other cultures in many instances. The growth experiences and enhanced abilities they take back to their homes in France, Switzerland, Africa, New Zeland, Haiti or the U.S.A. become an essential part of the lifeblood of the Church. Their fortified faith and increased abilities allow them to strengthen the Church from generation to generation. To me it is a marvelous work and a wonder. Mostly they go on missions to help bring people to Christ through conversion or to render humanitarian aid. But they learn so much on their missions that the Church is naturally helped by their increased service within the Church in other ways after they complete their missionary assignment and become reintegrated into life back home. The wonderful joy that missionaries feel as they perform their missionary labors is a great blessing that is difficult to explain to someone who has not experienced it firsthand. It is also very hard work and they often meet rejection.

·        I appreciate that the scriptures made available through modern prophets, along with the Bible, help me to have a clearer picture of what the next life after this life will be like. By having that understanding I have a greater incentive to stay on the right path in this life. I can live each day in a more calm and understanding fashion because I have a high degree of certainty about what comes after my life on this earth. I believe that individuals lived in a spirit realm, as spirits, with God before coming to this earth. I also believe and find comfort in knowing that death is but a birth into another realm—kind of like going from one room to another. Though being separated from loves ones who die is seldom easy, there is no lasting sting in death when we understand that it is simply a birth that we call death.

·        I love the fact that at least twice a year I can hear the words of living apostles and prophets in conferences. Because I am human and have weaknesses, I need frequent reminders to help me stay on the right path. When the prophet and apostles and other leaders speak they are not loud and overly dramatic, nor do they speak in mysterious ways that are difficult to understand. Their messages are calm, reassuring and penetrating. The Holy Ghost has testified to me many times that what they is true and valid when they talk about how a man should treat his wife and children, that we should avoid pornography that denigrates women, that we are to look for ways to serve our fellowman, and how we can receive answers to our prayers. The messages are down-to-earth and understandable, as well as inspiring.
My friend, I just wanted you to know what I personally believe. I would be perhaps remiss if I did not share this with you. .............This understanding brings great peace to my mind and heart. I do not expect that everyone will believe in it.

I know that many people don’t believe there were prophets or miracles or angels 2,000 or 4,000 years ago and so why should they believe in such things now? In fact, we read in the Old Testament in Amos and Isaiah that people were annoyed by prophets and seers and demanded that they stop prophesying or seeing into the future. It is the same today unfortunately.

I also know that religion to some people is a nuisance that gets in the way of things they want to do with their bodies, mind and life in general. I realize that not everyone wants to be bothered with the thoughts of going to church meetings. Some people don’t believe in God and so they see religion as a crutch. Some people feel that there is so much misery on earth that there must not be a God. In my heart I feel that if God stopped all bad things from happening and intervened on every occasion we would not need to walk by faith and there would be little personal growth. We would be like marionettes with someone pulling the strings and denying us an opportunity to grow spiritually by learning how to use our agency . I am very grateful that I have scriptures and prophets and answers to my prayers to help me better understand why bad things happen to good people and what we can learn from our trials in life. 

Sincerely,
David L. Harris
December 28, 2011  

P.S.  I realize you may not believe what I believe but I know you well enough to know that you will not laugh at me or belittle me because of what I believe.

Note: My friend (age 34)to whom the above letter was addressed, and his mother, were subsequently baptized as members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, not because of this letter but because of their own study and inspiration.  (A “saint” as used above, is simply a member of the church who is trying to improve and become more and more Christ-like. The word saint is used in our church the same way the Apostle Paul used the term in writing to church members [i.e. saints] in his apostolic letters that we find in the New Testament. [e.g. Ephesians 1:1;  Ephesians 2:19; 2 Cor. 1:1 ])

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Note: Being Christian in no way precludes my appreciation and respect for friends and acquaintances who are Jewish, Muslim or non-believers. 


Note: I am aware of most or all the attacks on my church and faith. I think I have read the pros and cons associated with all of them over the years. When I speak of attacks I am not talking about honest disagreement over doctrinal issues. While I don't have responses that would totally satisfy every critic or attacker, I have not been dissuaded from my core beliefs. In the New Testament the followers of Christ were referred to as a "peculiar people." (I Peter 2:9; Psalms 135:4) There are those who (often for reasons of self interest) refer to Mormonism (nickname due to belief in the Book of Mormon) as a cult or non Christian. Nothing could be further from the truth. Quite often (but not always) the critics have never attended an LDS church meeting and have not read a substantial portion of the Book of Mormon. It's like the old game of Gossip or the notion that if you whisper something people will believe it. Most of the criticisms are a combination of misinformation, disinformation, lack of information, etc. As stated earlier, I don't expect that everyone will automatically believe in the tenets of my faith, but I hope they will see us as followers of Christ who are trying to make the world a better place for all.

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There are thirteen Articles of Faith indicating some core beliefs of the LDS faith. While these do not constitute a credo per se, they spell out in brief form some of the salient beliefs of "Mormonism" (i.e. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints).

  
We believe in God, the Eternal Father, and in His Son, Jesus Christ, and in the Holy Ghost.
 We believe that men will be punished for their own sins, and not for Adam’s transgression.
 We believe that through the Atonement of Christ, all mankind may be saved, by obedience to the laws and ordinances of the Gospel.
 We believe that the first principles and ordinances of the Gospel are: first, Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ; second,  Repentance; third, Baptism by immersion for the remission of sins; fourth, Laying on of hands for the gift of the Holy Ghost.
 We believe that a man must be called of God, by prophecy, and by the laying on of hands by those who are in authority, to preach the Gospel and administer in the ordinances thereof.
 We believe in the same organization that existed in the Primitive Church, namely, apostles, prophetspastorsteachers, evangelists, and so forth.
 We believe in the gift of tonguesprophecyrevelation, visionshealinginterpretation of tongues, and so forth.
 We believe the Bible to be the word of God as far as it is translated correctly; we also believe the Book of Mormon to be the word of God.
 We believe all that God has revealed, all that He does now reveal, and we believe that He will yet reveal many great and important things pertaining to the Kingdom of God.
 10 We believe in the literal gathering of Israel and in the restoration of the Ten Tribes; that Zion (the New Jerusalem) will be built upon the American continent; that Christ will reign personally upon the earth; and, that the earth will be renewed and receive its paradisiacal glory.
 11 We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience, and allow all men the same privilege, let them worship how, where, or what they may.
 12 We believe in being subject to kings, presidents, rulers, and magistrates, in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law.
 13 We believe in being honest, true, chastebenevolent, virtuous, and in doing good to all men; indeed, we may say that we follow the admonition of Paul—We believe all things, we hope all things, we have endured many things, and hope to be able to endure all things. If there is anything virtuouslovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things.

Joseph Smith.
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My Declaration


“I’m part of the fellowship of the unashamed, the die has been cast, I have stepped over the line, the decision has been made- I’m a disciple of Jesus Christ. I won’t look back, let up, slow down, back away or be still.

My past is redeemed, my present makes sense, my future is secure. I’m finished and done with low living, sight walking, smooth knees, colorless dreams, tamed vision, worldly talking, cheap giving & dwarfed goals.

My face is set, my gait is fast, my goal is heaven, my road is narrow, my way is rough, my companions are few, my guide is reliable, my mission is clear. I won’t give up, shut up, let up until I have stayed up, stored up, prayed up for the cause of Jesus Christ.

I must go till He comes, give till I drop, preach till everyone knows, work till He stops me & when He comes for His own, He will have no trouble recognizing me because my banner will have been clear.” (author unknown--has been attributed to at least two different people)



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Being Christian does not in any way preclude me from having a great appreciation for my friends and acquaintances who are Jewish, Muslim or athiests. 


Poetry , Prose and Books

I read books far more than poetry but that does not mean I don't appreciate poetry. I had not actually written poetry in years (since my school days) until a few years ago when I attempted one as a love poem about the sunsets Carol and I have appreciated during our 45 years together. It spoke of sunsets we have witnessed in Hawaii, France, West Indies, Egypt,  Guatemala, Peru, Arizona, etc. It was written to a beautiful woman but was pretty pathetic in style, so I will stick to what others have written by way of poetry. Here is a sampling of some poetry or prose that has moved me over the years, not necessarily because of its style in some cases but rather because of its core message.  I won't include love poetry in this blog, as those are more personal. The first one below, by Rudyard Kipling, hangs on a wall in our home and helped me to find the perspective I greatly needed during my years of living in the goldfish bowl as a city manager in California.


'if' by rudyard kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master,
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
Rudyard Kipling (1865-1936)

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The following poem is folksy but when I heard it decades ago I felt it said a great deal about the value of hard work. 

                            Bill Brown 

Bill Brown made a million, Bill Brown, think of that!
A boy, you remember, as poor as a rat.
Who hoed for the neighbors, did jobs by the day,
Well Bill's made a million, or near it, they say.
You can't understand it, well, neither could I.
But then I remembered, and now I know why.
The bell might be ringin', the dinner horn blow,
But Bill always hoed to the end of the row.

Bill worked for my father, you maybe recall.
He wasn't a wonder, not that, not at all.
He couldn't out-hoe me, nor cover more ground,
Or hoe any cleaner, or beat me around.
In fact I was better one way that I knew:
One toot from the kitchen, and home I would go,
But Bill always hoed to the end of the row.

We used to get hungry out there in the corn,
You talk about music, what equals a horn?
A horn yellin' dinner, tomatoes and beans,
And pork and potatoes, and gravy and greens.
I ain't blamin' no one, for quittin' on time,
To stop with the whistle, that ain't any crime.
But as for the million, well, this much I know:
That Bill always hoed to the end of the row!

(poem by Douglas Malloch, published around 1926.)

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There is so much good in the worst of us and so much bad in the best of us that it hardly behooves any of us to talk about the rest of us.

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That Man is a Success
Who has lived well, laughed often and loved much;Who has gained the respectof intelligent men and the love of children;Who has filled his nicheand accomplished his task;Who leaves the world better than he found it,whether by an improved poppy or a perfect poem or a rescued soul;Who never lacked appreciation of earth's beautyor failed to express it;Who looked for the best in othersand gave the best he had.
              by Robert Louis Stevenson



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Aimer, ce n'est pas se regarder l'un l'autre, c'est regarder ensemble dans la meme direction. (To love is not to look at each other but to look outward together in the same direction.) Antoine de Saint Exupery. " The Little Prince"

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Love sees more not less. But because it sees more it is willing to see less.

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'Tis the Set of the Sail -- or  -- One Ship Sails East

But to every mind there openeth,
A way, and way, and away,
A high soul climbs the highway,
And the low soul gropes the low,
And in between on the misty flats,
The rest drift to and fro.

But to every man there openeth,
A high way and a low,
And every mind decideth,
The way his soul shall go.

One ship sails East,
And another West,
By the self-same winds that blow,
'Tis the set of the sails
And not the gales,
That tells the way we go.

Like the winds of the sea
Are the waves of time,
As we journey along through life,
'Tis the set of the soul,
That determines the goal,
And not the calm or the strife.
                          by Ella Wheeler Wilcox 1916

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The Road Not Taken
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference. 
by Robert Frost 

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“[The fact is] most putts don’t drop. Most beef is tough. Most children grow up to be just people. Most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration. Most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. …Life is like an old-time rail journey—delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride” (“Big Rock Candy Mountains,” Deseret News, 12 June 1973, A4).

                                      

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So what books have I read? Far too many to try to remember. Back in my college days I remember the book "Victims of Group Think" (Irving Janis) was very instructive, especially considering my chosen occupational field. During my city manager career I enjoyed various management books such as "In Search of Excellence," (Tom Peters) and quite a few others. Helping me in trying to figure out some of the people I was called upon to deal with I found the books People of the Lie and The Road Less Traveled (Scott Peck, author) very useful. Kite Runner was very moving also. 

I enjoy historical novels (e.g. Michener, etc.) and history books, especially by David McCullough. John Adams, Mayflower, and 1776 were great. Beyond the Bible and Book of Mormon, both of which I  that I have read multiple times, I have read scores of religious books and commentaries that have been edifying and clarifying in my life. An occasional Western novel of the older genre can be pleasurable, including but not limited to Louis L'Amour's books. When my oldest soon lived in Haiti I read a useful book about the practice of Voodoo. Recently I have read The Glass Castles (Walls), Killing Lincoln, Killing Jesus, and Killing Kennedy. (O'Reilly and Dugard). Sometimes an old classic is good to read. A recent one was Green Mansions, by Hudson. Oh, and John Grisham books, too, brought relaxation some years ago.  I enjoyed the message of The Go-Getter (more of a story than a book) by Peter Kyne.

A haunting play/book/story is The Portrait of Dorian Gray, (Oscar Wilde) as it portrays how we all must ultimately answer for the kind of life we have lived, regardless of how we may have fooled others through our hypocrisy. 

Since returning from France 10 months ago I read a large volume called Paris, (Rutherford) about France through the ages.  In the 80's or 90's I read Fifties by Halberstam. I wasn't sure whether to be proud of my generation or dismayed--I guess it was some of both. The book From Beirut to Jerusalem (Friedman) is telling and does not give me a great deal of hope for long-term peace in the Middle East. Carol and I have listened to many, many books on CD while driving and had a delightful experience listening to Uncle Tom's Cabin as we toured the South (Alabama, Mississippi, South Carolina, Georgia) a few years ago.  What an experience that was. I love reading biographies of great men and women and find them motivational. I'll stop here--the list is way too long to try to remember or comment in any meaningful way. Our home is filled with books, including many of those referenced above, along with many reference type books.

As a child I was inspired by elementary biographies I read in fourth and fifth grade regarding Luther Burbank, Will Rogers (a boyhood hero), Abe Lincoln, John Paul Jones, Thomas Edison, George Washington Carver and others. My high school years introduced me to Ivanhoe, Rhyme of the Ancient Mariner, Exodus, Of Human Bondage, Crime and Punishment, The Scarlet Letter, Huckleberry Finn and other worthwhile works of literature. 


I suppose all the books I have read end up becoming a little bit of who I am and how I view the world.